There’s another surrogacy story in the news at the moment. Two men bought a woman to use as an incubator and are now having a tantrum because she doesn’t want to sign the baby away (though they have actually already taken the child and are in hiding with it).
The men claim the child is theirs because one of them supplied some of the DNA.
Where to start with the sheer awfulness of it all ?
First off, surrogacy is like forced adoption – remember the young mothers of the 50’s 60′ 70’s – it is a very traumatic experience to have the baby you have grown and birthed taken from you. This is the biology of the situation, full term pregnancy and birth creates the bonding, it has to for basic survival of the species.
This is why abortion is not in and of itself is not a trauma. At early stages, before the hormones fully kick in there is no bond, DNA is irrelevant.
Men do not like biology, especially when it concerns women and childbirth. For them it is all about their magical spermy genes and ownership. The child is a thing that they own, the mother is a thing that they have bought. It’s like going to Argos and ordering a new telly and then it doesn’t turn up so you complain.